Creating a Balanced and Fulfilled Life

I recently got back from China last week and it seems that each trip away I’m always learning something profound and never expected which is probably why its so profound to me. 

I realized this trip more than just intellectually but actually experientially the importance to have balance between mind, body, and spirit. So many people are trying to get their ideal career figured out or find their divine lover, in fact I have been one of those seekers for over 4 years and also a coach helping others find that, but without the inner balance of mind, body, spirit none of that matters. 

I’m not saying that spending time aligning yourself with your highest passion or affirming your intended life, but so many people can accomplish finding a new career or a new partner with great ease, however finding inner balance not just occasionally but where it becomes your way of living each moment of each day. 

Where your body is getting the stretching, exercise, and healthy foods. Where you are aware that you are not your thoughts and not letting your thoughts run your life but you being the observer of your thoughts and choose to live each day with grace and joy. And where your spiritual divinity is connected with meditation, prayer, and giving of your compassion and service to others at all times.

These are just a few things that go into these three areas but if we were to all focus on getting peace and balance in these areas then the rest of our life would just naturally flow.

Say your scared about not making enough money….are you more likely to attract that money staying tense, scared, and in fear…OR….are you more likely to attract the money if your taking care of yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually?  

Don’t let your finances be an excuse for taking care of your body. We were designed to be in balance and its our beliefs systems that get us away from our naturally place.  

So spend some time in this moment asking yourself, what would bring me joy and happiness now? And now ACT!

I often come across many people that are not happy about some part of their life. Either their job, relationship, health of their body, and even their Spiritual life. Many people say that this lack of happiness or purpose in their life leads to boredom, unhappiness, or even confusion and fear.

I have to admit that their are times on my journey that my mind try’s to tell me that I need something else outside of myself to be “more” happy. To be “more” connected with life.

I write this to all my current and future viewers that from this point on the writings will start to get much deeper, personal, and intense.

So many of us have it made up in our minds that having a balanced life should be easy. And yet we just can’t seen to implement it into our life. The problem with this is, that having a balanced life in all areas takes Presence, Care, Discipline, and a committed heart.

Within each of our human bodies lies an invisible presence that is the infinite part of who we truly are and many of us have lost sight and are out of touch with this presence. Our Soul. The Soul is the only REAL part of you. The Soul is what needs to be tended, nurtured, and listened to.

Have you found yourself having one of the greatest weeks with love, happiness, and balance flowing through your life and then all of a sudden you wake up one day and feel “totally” disconnected?? Where it feels like you are all alone, not happy, and possibly even extremely bored? In this place is where many of us so often turn to eating lots of food by ourselves, masturbating to fulfill an emptiness, calling an ex-lover who we know is not healthy for us, especially in this state of mind. Have you ever experienced this?

In this place it so often feels like nothing can get us back to that happy, laughing Self that we want to be in. In fact, most of the time we throw in the towel and just say, “today I don’t give a shit.” Am I right?

When we are in this state of mind, naturally the first thought is, “how can I get out of this?” But what most of us have lost touch with is the relationship with our Soul. What is your Soul trying to ask or tell you when you get in this mind set? Do you want to go through the rest of your life having these “OFF” days? Or, do you want to start growing a deep, intimate, personal relationship with your Soul that will allow you to embrace why your Ego (mind) is pulling you into this dark, nasty place?

Caring for the Soul first starts with being aware that you are not your body or your mind. That the very essence of you, that is eternal, is your Soul, and you (your Soul) has chosen this life to evolve and become the doorway which God flows through.

I might ask you, how do you care for your Soul? Caring for the Soul can be a very personal thing. A few examples of this may look like making yourself a nice romantic dinner with candles in silence, taking a nice bath, picking up trash in your community and not telling anyone, donating clothes to people who don’t have the financial means to buy new clothes, or taking a nice relaxing walk around your home.

There are many ways in which you can begin to start a relationship with your Soul. The most important thing to remember is that just like any relationship in your life, you must continue to listen and take care of it.

If you stop calling your friends, after a long time what will happen? They will stop calling you or think that your not interested in being their friend, right? The Soul will always call on us, but we must listen.

Ways to listen, the most important is to Meditate. Sit down for at least 10-20 minutes a day in silence and relax. The whole point is to just SLOW your mind down and relax.

Eating and sleeping are a must for the body to survive, and meditating is a must for your relationship with your Soul to survive. Your Soul is what connects you with the wonder and mystery of life. Take some time to write a note to yourself or do something special AND most importantly, begin to implement this into your life forever. Unconditionally love yourself!!!

If you are angry, sad, bored, confused, or any other feeling. Take a moment to realize that you are HERE, no where else and start taking long deep slow breaths, and if you have to, force yourself to be creative in doing something for yourself. Keep in mind, its not WHAT you do for yourself that matters, its HOW you do it. Put your attention and energy on LOVE for yourself, JOY for yourself, PEACE for yourself. And watch as others that want this same positive lifestyle begin to come in your life as guides and great friends.

This is finding the Independence and alone space that we all so desperately need.

Until next time, I hope you are enjoying the readings….

Namaste, Tom