When You Are In Difficult Times…
Have you ever had a time in your life where it seemed like all your hopes, dreams, desires, goals were not moving at all? Things were stuck and it feels like you keep getting pushed backwards?
Most people base their growth on what they can see with their physical eye’s. However, what I believe is that most often when the biggest shifts happen in your life are the times where it seems like nothing is happening at all. Where you feel like you are trying so hard to get through the struggles, they just keep smacking you in the face.
You may be experiencing a very difficult time in your life right now. Maybe you have struggled for a long time getting a career that interests you, or you have just come out of a relationship unexpectedly, or you have been struggling financially for awhile. There are many scenarios that could be mentioned, though whats happening is that you are not experiencing the life you wish desire. You want to be happy, peaceful, passionate…yet there seems to be a pull that keeps you in and out of happy-sad, peaceful-chaotic, passionate-stuck.
Can you look back on a time in your life where it seemed like nothing good was happening for you? A time where you struggled or had a tough moment?
Those moments in your life are what shaped you into who you are now and have made you stronger and more wise. Whatever it was that you went through in the past was exactly what you were supposed to go through to help you grow into who you were becoming. That is the same as right now. Whatever difficulty you seem to be facing, understand that it is not a mistake that you are going through this. You have actually called this into your life to make you stronger in some way. No one else can tell you how or why except you.
The key to overcoming your difficult emotions that come up is….”take time to yourself.” To some people that may sound stupid, but it is so important. When you stop your seemingly busy schedule to take a walk around your home, write in your journal how you are feeling and how you would like to be feeling, meditate, or do anything that excites your spirit. Don’t tell yourself you don’t have time to do this, because if you can’t create time for yourself then you will never be able to help others be happy the way you truly want to be happy.
Know that this too shall pass. A famous quote that carries so much wisdom and depth. Instead of focusing on your struggle, find yourself delighting in what you love to do. Place your thoughts on your passion and silently affirm to yourself everyday, “I trust this struggle is teaching me what I need to know and moving out of my life now.” Or come up with a sentence that speaks to you. Let it be one that really shifts your attitude from stuck to grateful. Having positive thoughts that you really believe will help lift your energy out of the gutters and into greater possibility for your life.
Believe in who you are and that you here to make a positive difference in many people’s lives just by being you.
Believe In Yourself
Tom, I like this post. I can relate to this and actually I think everyone can. It kind of goes back to the saying “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”
I remember the first job I interviewed for right out of college, I failed the interview and didn’t get the job. At the time I thought I was perfect for this job and I had all the qualifications. On top of that this was a job that I really wanted to get. Not getting the job was a huge let down for me. When I told my good friend about what had happened to me, I will never forget what he said. He said “Congratulations!” he was actually happy that I did not get this job in fact he was cheering and laughing when at that moment I was practically breaking into tears. I said “what are you talking about?” He said you are going to be very successful now that you experienced this. This experience and what my friend said to me at that time will stick with me forever.
Hey John,
Thanks for sharing this man. I really appreciate you sharing your personal experience that came up for you after reading the post. My hope is that others will have the courage to share their experience too, as I really believe we grow by being vulnerable and willing to share with others.
Sounds like you have a good friend too to see your job situation in a different perspective. It’s a profound lesson to not get a job, get broken up with, or go through a difficult time and realize during that it’s not happening to you, but rather FOR you.
Love your thoughts…
Tom! I find myself randomly surfing around your website, after seeing your inspirational post on Cindy’s FB page. Ah, good ol’ facebook, never know where the tangents may lead you. I’m happy I landed here. I’m compelled to share a message that someone shared with me during a difficult time in my life when I was making many, many purposeful changes…all in the name of happiness. It’s not easy when you have been blessed with the vision or the catalyst to make a change, but not all of the tools or opportunities that you need to accomplish that vision have been revealed to you yet. Attempting to be patient…but really feeling more frustrated out of your mind for your ambiguous life to hurry up and work itself out…feeling lost and praying for a “door to open”. That’s when a friend told me that I wasn’t lost at all. I was exactly where I needed to be…just waiting in the hallway. And either I wasn’t ready to open the door, or what was on the other side of the door wasn’t ready for me to enter it. At the time those words brought me peace, and since then I’ve really grown to love the time I spend just chillin’ in the hallway.