Often times we don’t even see it coming. Its like the car that jumps out at us on the road or the horror of losing a family member unexpectedly.

Inevitably, obstacles arise throughout our life at all stages. Whether it be a loss of a family member in physical form, a relationship ending, a job loss or pay cut, or the loss of a part of our health.  There are so many flavors of obstacles to choose from that its like a kid at the toy factory trying to just pick one. Except were not picking it….Or Are We???

In our life we don’t have control of the external world that surrounds us, but we do however have the free choice to choose who we are and what thoughts we think as a result of those obstacles.

Recently I have had a couple people enter into my life that built up trust over a period of time of knowing these people and after time passed I was very badly taken advantaged of and mis-treated. The pain that I felt as a result of these relationships was immense, however at the end of the pain I asked myself, Who Am I in the face of chaos?

Once you begin to realize you have total control and the choice to choose peace and love over pain and suffering you begin to feel the power of “winning”.  I don’t refer to winning as the cliche of winning v.s. losing, but the simple fact is when we all achieve something we experience a feeling of self-acknowledgement and confidence. The more you begin to sit with your feelings of pain but not let them overcome you and become YOU, the more you will encounter what it really means to be a leader and the change you wish to see in the world. 

So if your experiencing pain and suffering as your reading this, don’t deny it and act as if it doesn’t exist because it will keep at you. “What you resist, persists.”  Instead, embrace or simply acknowledge the feelings you have, maybe grab a journal and write these feelings down and then simple affirm to yourself, “I am powerfully choosing peace now.” And keep affirming that over and over until it becomes not just words but an actual feeling, an actual experience.

Many blessings to you…